WHY YOU ARE THE WAY YOU ARE?

UNDERSTANDING WHO ARE YOU AND WHY YOU ARE THE WAY YOU ARE

In my experience of influencing people for change there has been a lot of perception. For the people in entrepreneurship training always when asked such question tend to mention their names, occupation, and any other positions they hold in a society. It is very rare for people to explain who they are in terms of thinking and vision for their well-being. For psychologist it is difficult to have positive change if you don't understand yourself who you are. Realizing who you are is viewed on the nature of life style you live and your relation with others. The way you struggle to  fulfill your needs helps to position yourself in a manner that identify you as a certain person.

If you want to transform from the situation you have to the better one you need to be transformed. Transformation is very important aspect that needs you to look things outside the box. Your struggle to change in the way of thinking, ways of doing things, setting goal for attaining your dream  and valuing and using opportunities around you can be used as the tool in understanding who are you. The problem that faces people in most cases are embedded in mindset. If you don't understand thinking and philosophy that guide your behavior on how limit your progress changing will remain a history.
No one will define your destiny except you and the only person that can make you not to be the person that God want to be is you. It is better in the life to have a vision on what attainment you want to achieve in the life time. Understanding yourself it the one that helps you to develop a vision which is built in the philosophy of better life. Also self initiatives can help you to achieve better on what you want. Your vision and thinking can not be imposed from outside rather are self driven from your heart. Always for the person with self awareness struggle to cause things to happen rather than depending on others.

WHY YOU ARE THE WAY YOU ARE?

Every thing that appears on you have its cause. There are various attributes that may contribute on you to be the way you are.

a). Upbringing. Upbringing in your family since your childhood  have influence on your behavior. For example if your upbringing were not built in the spirit of hard work this will reflects in you lifetime and if you are not hard worker possibility of living in poor situation is high. Also bad relationship between parent and child have negative  impact to in the future of the child. For those who have experienced torture in their childhood they are coward, aggressive, not confident in whatever they do, poor performance in class and anti-social. Once you  are anti-social is difficult to be successful entrepreneur eventually you die poorer.

 b)Naming.The name you get from your parents or guardian  can define you why you are the way you are. In Swahili you can find somebody named SHIDA or TABU which means problem. Therefore you can live in problem situation and failing to struggle for better life because you think of that name being given for you. Others have names that inspires them to be risk taker, hard worker. These names makes people to have life style that reflects on their names. Giving up for some people it is sin so struggle  with all their efforts to be successful in life.

c)Experience is another attributes that can define/tells you why you are the way you are. If you were born and experiencing a society which have no entrepreneurs you are likely to follow the footsteps of others in your society. This have impacted negatively  in most of Tanzanian societies. In many society have no saving culture and this has penetrated to policy makers. You can be grown in the spirit of begging at the end you become a good beggar whose working is not an issue rather  than enjoying the sweats of others.

d).Customs-These are cultures  you become exposed in your life time. In some society women are not allowed to involve in business (entrepreneurial activities) that can help to generate income. These customs makes women to be dependent on men for each and everything. Also in some  societies women are regarded as the only producer while men going for taking alcohol. This culture weaken the spirit of entrepreneurship as a result catalyze the continuity of hard living.  It is better to evaluate yourself looking on how customs contributes on the way you are.

   HOW TO CHANGE FROM WHO YOU ARE

 If you think you are not satisfied on the way you are the possibility of change is high. You can transform form the situation you have despite the long attributes that have contributed in shaping you to be the way you are.

Just be you as you rather than waiting others to determine your destiny. Be confident and believe in God that changing is possible. Have self evaluation to checkout if your dream have reached or not and if is not achieved ask why. Develop your own success philosophy that comes from the bottom of the heart. A transformed and a person with self awareness  does not run from his/her dream rather find solutions for challenges he/she face.

By Godfrey  Vedasto